Your friendship is a gift, I enjoy opening every day Author Unknown
Do you have a friend that you can do absolutely nothing with but absolutely everything? I have a friend of over 50 years. She’s like a sister. She is even like a daughter to my mother. We can sit together for days, doing absolutely nothing, well maybe one is reading and the other crocheting, but not doing anything to write home about, just being together. And most would find this boring. We do the girly thing of shopping together, lunches, cook together, etc., but the best times are doing nothing pressing and doing whatever floats our boat at the time. We can sit in silence and watch a good movie, but I’ll be honest, unless totally engrossed in the movie, silence is not one of our strong points. But we can do it. Do we get on each others nerves at times, you betcha, but do we remember who it is we are aggravated with, and how much we love each other, absolutely.
We have been through a lot of good times and still do have great times together and with friends, but we have been through some pretty bad times as well. She introduced me to the love of my life, who through the years has had some awful health issues, a stroke and two liver transplants. Wherein he is much better now, she watched me struggle, hurt and suffer to keep him alive and still keep myself going. I too have watched her suffer and hurt through her husband’s death and the loss of both her parents, relatively close together. And even today I watch her struggle with the emptiness of the loss of her parents. She has remarried and has a nice life, but that emptiness sometimes is hard to manage. She is blessed with a son and two grandchildren which lift her daily and that is comforting, but it’s not mom and dad.
As I grow older I think of my mortality, what time I may have left. I don’t ponder on it mind you, but I do think about it at times. I think about getting old and sick and getting ready to leave this earth and besides my family, and how they would feel, that goes without saying, I think of her having to maybe witness me suffer, or just have to leave this earth and I know the loss and pain she will feel. I don’t want her to have to witness my passing nor do I want to witness hers. I cannot imagine the rest of my life without her in it.
Do not get me wrong, do we disagree? Absolutely. Do we argue? Well not so much, but we have, but do we forget and forgive immediately? For sure. Maybe it took us longer when we were kids, maybe a day. . . What I am trying to stress here is that FRIENDSHIP, good, close, everlasting friendships should be cherished, should be enjoyed. Not everyone can say that they have this kind of friend, I am happy and thankful that I do.
I am fortunate to have been able to build another friendship in my life who would impact me much the same way, she is very special, but this ONE FRIEND, we have been through a lot together, we are the staples in each other’s life. We are the true essence of “sisters from different mothers”.
There are so many people who can not say that they have a true friend but lots of acquaintances. If you have this ONE FRIEND, cherish her or him, and feel really blessed, to be able to share your lives, cause in a flash they can become just a memory.
A True Friend knows your weaknesses but shows you your strengths; feels your fears but fortifies your faith; sees your anxieties but frees your spirit; recognizes your disabilities but emphasizes your possibilities William Arthur Ward